the unsettled mover: how to be present and still
I normally have questions. I like being able to receive a myriad of answers and suggestions. Better than that, I like being in a position for new knowledge, growth and development.
Two weeks ago I chatted with a good friend. We talked about, as usual, the waging war of the spirit and how it seems to always be in session. We scathed various topics raging from science to careers to workplace. We spent the most time on relativity and societal disproportion. It was, and still is, to us the most pressing issue of all times.
What we gathered was that in the quest for life, which we all already have, we endlessly search for something else. We wander around without aim looking for the next cabinet of entertainment and pleasure without having fully digested our last hollow dose. It was noted that we move about while standing still. I called it “The Unsettled Mover”.
Yesterday I had a day of reflection. I missed my children a great deal and the constant stream of attended such. I thought about the things we do, the places we go, the new things we learn. In a split second, my thoughts would move to what we could do when they return, where we could go when they return and what new things we have yet to learn never once realising I, again, was being an unsettled mover.
The notion of one transferring to a new thought before the previous can be received and related is plain ole but very literally mind boggling. How can anyone of human nature do such? Without an concrete answer, the reality is it is done everyday.We do it at the grocery store, in the coffee house, at the office, in the library, with our children and even in the shower. Some may know it as “multi-tasking”.
The horrible truth to this over-processed nightmare is that once it begins one is automatically training its brain to do the same continuously while being led to believe one is being productive.
The big picture in short shows the damage to our society with this behaviour. There needs to be some sort of truce, rather soon or now than later.
What can be done?
1. Identify-Identify how often this occurs. Is it closely related to the time(s) when you are stressed or worried about interference of the unplanned? If so, replace that thought with one that says that the issue is not bigger than you.
2. Focus-Focus on one thing at a time. There is unlimited research about how multi-tasking is one drink short of being intoxicated. In short, it’s a dangerous border. Make a list of things and try to prioritise as best you can. When you are working to rid your list, remember to be present and not thinking of the next thing to do.
3. Re-learn-Combine the first two lessons with an initiative to reprogram your brain to work more efficient. Over time, you will notice how productive you are by simply labelling the issue and then focusing on what is before you.
4. Share-Talk to your close families or friends about what you are experiencing. Most often they have shared your sentiments and may be able to help you delegate some of the tasks or share with you what helped them stay on track.
As with everything. Every little bit helps and little leads a lot.